My dad died unexpectedly, so was reflecting on healing

Hey Friends -

Those of you who know me may already be aware that my dad passed away unexpectedly (of COVID pneumonia, as I understand) a couple weeks ago at age 67, kind of young these days.

He was a narcissist, and years of therapy as an adult led me to understand that I had been the scapegoat kid within the family dynamic.

The damage that wrought took a lot of healing over the years, and like most scapegoat kids, I tried everything I could think of before eventually reaching the point at which going No Contact was the only healthy option, and I hadn’t been in touch with him in any form for about 3 and a half years.

What’s been most interesting to me to see in the wake of his death has been the extent to which I really have healed what he’d done, how much I hadn’t even been aware of things still-to-be-healed coming from other members of my family of origin who enabled his behavior….and the extent to which I enable narcissism, and still attract narcissists, myself.

Anyway, if you’re interested, I felt compelled to record a podcast episode on the morning of his death, to talk through what was coming up. I was hoping that sharing that could maybe help me, and also be helpful to others. 💗

Appreciate you all,

Rachel